My journey to create Pause Breathe Proceed continued to unwind as I graduated from high school and went to the University of Kentucky. I suffered the same challenge as many youth these days, I had no idea what I wanted to do in life. College was what I was supposed to do so I worked hard and graduated with honors from the business school. I still had no idea what I wanted to do.
Lesson 2 – The definition of success is a subconscious program that can be changed
The summer after college graduation my sister and her roommate headed to Santa Barbara, CA for the summer so I jumped in the car. Why not? I had no other plan. It was the only break in their pre-med schedule. I was always envious that my sister knew she wanted to be a doctor. I landed a temp job at Delco Systems Operations, the aerospace arm of General Motors. I worked hard and eventually got hired. I also met and married my first husband. No, I still didn’t know what I wanted to do but according to society I was successful.
At this point I was experiencing all of the things I was supposed to do but something was missing. At a young age I remember telling my mom “I’m here to help people transition through this lifetime”. What did that mean? Years later it has become the Pause Breathe Proceed movement. I went through this time of my life to understand the “supposed to do’s” in life. I was understanding that society’s definition of success was not my definition. I had spent many years trying to become what I was supposed to be instead of taking the time to figure out who I wanted to be. I was now conscious of my subconscious pattern of success.
Pause – how do YOU define success? It could be a simple humble life of service to others, creating a loving family, or becoming a doctor. However you define success, make sure it is your definition. Do not let someone else’s definition of success crush your destiny or spirit.
Breathe – don’t feel the need to know everything right away, you won’t. I would not be who I am today if I did not take my journey. When I graduated college in 1990 the world wasn’t ready for Pause Breathe Proceed and I did not have enough life experiences. Let the journey unfold.
Proceed – your definition of success will be redefined as you discover who you really are and why you are here. Be patient with yourself. Join the Pause Breathe Proceed movement.
